Caffeine Not-So-Free - Day 3
Submitted by cheetahface on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 8:57pmI didn't have a chance to write yesterday, and I really felt it. I gave in to the power of the caffeine withdrawal headache yesterday afternoon. I sat through a morning meeting with an unbearable pain right behind my eyes. I made a bee line for the nearest Dunkin' Donuts immediately after the meeting. I feel ok about it though.
I'm going to admit something I've never admitted to anyone...maybe not even my therapist. This is all part of my pattern - I get ideas in my head, usually for no good reason (or for unbelievably ridiculous reasons) and I attempt to make massive life changes. Inevitably, these changes don't stick, and I dive deeper into self-hatred because now I've failed at something. Again. I've done this with food, exercise, relationships, apartments (I've been known to make a decision to move, and by the next day my shit is packed and I'm out...not good)...just about everything.
I don't want to admit many of the decisions I make are nonsensical. On the outside, I'm a very put together person. I'm good at my job, I do well in school...I project the image of fairly well-adjusted 26 year old. But from the time I was 15 or 16 (when I was first diagnosed), I have felt like a wreck inside. Chances are, if you're reading this you know how I feel. I rationalize and justify every stupid thing I do, but inside I know I'm lying to everyone around me, and that brings on the awful feelings of guilt which contributes to self-loathing.
Ugh.
So, someone else might say, "If you know this is a pattern, why don't you change it?" And THAT is the question of the ages. I can tell you what therapists have said, and which is 100% true: I'm not happy with myself/my life, but I'm too scared to examine and work on what's actually making me miserable, so I try to change ridiculous things that will ultimately not fix the problem, but will distract me from the real shit.
Phew. I'm spent.
On a positive note: I AM going to run the loop, and I had a great run tonight. Pushed myself a bit further than I did the day before yesterday. It feels good.