If you do not suffer you do not understand what it is to suffer. This is another dating service for those who suffer. It matters not what KIND of suffering anymore than it matters what KIND of person you are. The differences are individuals each having a different experience of suffering. I FEEL different from you no matter what happens in common. I have been an alcoholic, drug addict, and bipolar but I have never been a woman or a person of a different ethnicity. By serial dating I will never FIND someone who FEELS like me in any meaningful way. It is the Spiritual connection that must come first and the rest will follow just as a lion tamer leads the lions. If the lions lead the result is predictable: Predatory behaviour. The lions are leading this entire system of things from a position of great power and numbers and we are merely the gladiators and Christians thrown in for the entertainment. Some have swords, some not. In the end we are all flesh and blood to be devoured sooner or later. Someone else gets devoured before us and we feel relief that it wasn't I. But the time comes for all, sooner or later, until the party is over and the Janitor comes in to clean up for the next round.