SO I am going to New Mexico to see my sister soon. I love her to death, she is my baby sister, like 13 years younger than me and a pre-teen now. She is excited to see me.

My mother will be there. She is the one who sent me away and terminated parental right's because I was too "mentally ill" to deal with. She made me the problem so she couldn't see the abuse and stuff we all went through at the hands of my father.

So she emails me and is like "Your father is really upset that you won't be there when he is there."

It's like ummmm.....duh. I chose not to go when my father would be there because I have a restraining order out against my father!!! What part of that is she not understanding?

At the same time, I feel very sorry for her, because she must have already given up on herself. I haven't seen her in like 10 yrs now so keep me in your thoughts...so we both come out alive from this breif interaction.