"You're not in love with anybody.  You don't really love anybody.  You should stop telling people you love them.  The way you act and the things you say mislead people into thinking that you want the kind of relationship that they do, when you really don't."

 
I'd like to have the authority to define what love means to me, and whether or not I love somebody and/or everybody -- and I do.  My understanding and expression of love and care is different from yours: from most, it seems.  I don't want to be mainstreamed.  I'd rather choose my community.  Some things to keep in mind:
1. People are trained to believe in a concept of love that includes jealousy, possession, exclusivity, control, and irrationality.  These elements become assumed to be associated with love and care.
2. People's interpretations and perceptions are influenced by their assumptions.  
3. I state my position, beliefs, and limits at the beginning of a new relationship.  My behaviour reflects my enjoyment, and elements assumed to be associated with the enjoyment of relationships and people enter others' understanding and expectations.  Fantasies that I will or have changed my mind tempt and delude people.  
 
Who knew how accurate "Heaven's Dark Cloud" would turn out to be.
 
To the harrassers: PLEASE leave me alone.  Get out of my life.