My sister was in a bad car accident. My mother was driving and my grandfather was also in the car. Apparently, my grandfather is in intensive care now. My sister called me crying. She needed someone to help take care of her. My mother is freaking. She was MIA for a while then called me at 5am freaking in MAJOR blaming mode. I couldn't get her to calm down. It took 2 hours of listening to her. And trying my best to reassure her. I am honestly not really all that empathetic anymore. Her behavior is totally affecting my sister who is only 13. She's like my kid. And so I am angry that my mother isn't stepping it up. And so I confronted her for the first time, like this. I told her how my sister was affected and that she is at a friend's house right now. And I don't know why my sister still expects her to be a mom to her but she still does, so she needs to go take care of her now.

I know it's a little harsh, but we have been around the block a time or two. And she has just completely gone off the deep end. She was crying saying she needed to hear my voice. I think she regrets sending me away and giving me up now. But I am uncertain whether she regrets it just because she has always had me to comfort her when she is feeling bad, or if she regrets it because she really misses me as a seperate individual from her. I suspect she has no concept of how I could be a seperate individual from her and just views me as an extension of her and only cares about how I could meet her needs. I seems like after I stopped meeting her needs she disapeared entirely. And now this random phone call. I would have expected the death call, but he isn't dead yet and she just wanted reassurance from me. I didn't give her as much as she wanted I suspect. But it isn't my job to reassure her. I just don't feel a lot of empathy for her at this point.

Squirre