so, it's national coming out day again. october 11th. i've written a lot about coming out over the last 15 years. today all i really have to say is: i am pansexual. i am polyamorous. i am kinky. and i am out. i encourage other folks to come out, today and everyday. closets are dark, cramped, sad places to live. every time one of us comes out, it makes it easier for someone else too. every time someone gets a chance to accept that someone they respect is queer, it makes the world a more accepting place.