transitions and adjustments
Submitted by invisible on Tue, 01/02/2007 - 12:44pmI am feeling frustrated with the world right now -- its demands and expectations.
Really, any kind of adjustment is rough. Yet, at the same time, I crave changes. I think a bit part of my problems with adjustments or transitions is this idea that they are going to be (semi)permanent. It feels trapping. Mondays are so hard. I always feel silly talking about how hard Mondays are because who doesn't have a hard time getting back to work? But lately, I feel like its not work -- its the switch from doing lots of things over the weekend for myself and people I love to doing lots of things on a schedule that is imposed for someone who I hope doesn't regret hiring me... its the expectations; the demand of it. I generally spend the first half of Mondays alone in front of my computer at work crying.
For the holidays, the office shuts down for a full week, since my boss leaves town and it is just him and me here. It was amazing. I went to visit family. My brother lives among some radical livers -- rebuilding homes from the inside to meet needs, creative income, totally oppositional living styles to what I'm doing -- no formulaic 9-5er. etc.
I think about how much I would love to live differently. How wonderful it would be to be able to adjust my day to me, rather than adjust me to the day I have to do. I know my brother works his butt off and has his own bills and such, but he is able to work 18 hours straight when he feels capable, and take a day off and bike around his city when thats his need. He does construction work -- hands-on, beautiful contruction work. Sometimes I think that is why he has grown so much in the past few years; because he works with his hands, gets out of his head sometimes, makes things based upon need. I can't even get a list right for a work-project. I can't seem to come into work without the fear that I'm going to hear about how I'm not doing things well enough.
And I have these huge monthly bills for student loans. A graduate mistake that only gives me some letters after my name and a debt that frightens me into standard living. I feel like, if it weren't for the debt, I might actually be able to adjust my life in ways that right now I feel I can't.
It really helps just typing out my feelings about these things. I have been trying to journal more, from time to time as it comes. In treatment, I have realized that I only get worse if I don't try and express, even to myself, what I am feeling. Even though it usually feels like pointless complaining about things "everyone else" can handle...
thanks for this space.
Hello Non-Visible to Me
If saying non-visible offends you, please accept my apology. I mean no harm. It just makes me feel that you truly feel that way about yourself...and that fills me with sadness.
Is there any way to consolidate your loans at a lower payment/lower interest? My son had to do it in order to eat. Perhaps you can find a way to do the same thing?
Being nosy, butwhat would you really like to do with your life? Not a lifetime, but long enough for you to be happy. You can always change your mind further down the road and pursue something else. I left nursing and went into the wonderful financial world. Started at the bottom, did the work hard crap, but made a very comfortable living. I throughly enjoyed my work.
It did show me that, if someone is willing, new beginnings are possible.
I'm glad you are writing! Please don't worry about complaining, you are sharing and that's a big difference. Besides, when you feel like crap, we are allowed to whine for awhile.
It's helpful to me also to focusand write/type. Focus ismy key word--thinking of what I want to say makes me focus on my issues (aka my demonsplaying with my head)
I'm looking forward to reading more of your honest posts.
Skye