Just finished reading your last blog, than I read this one--yeesh! That totally sucks your family isn't respecting your boundaries, but it isn't suprising considering how abusive people work. My sister is a survivor of domestic abuse and she has the same no-contact rule with her ex. He recently tried to email her to talk about legal matters and of course, was really persuasive and manipulative about discussing monetary affairs between each other and not their lawyers, and it of course had a traumatizing psycho-emotional effect on her but still she asked me if she should write him back (!!), one last time. I always tell her NO, like her therapist, and her support group leaders, because abusive people will always struggle to find ways to try to get you engaged in their lives again, by whatever means neccessary, especially when you are the one calling the shots . She has a list of all the things he's ever done, initialed, dated, and signed and for that reason he's fucking terrified. Your family is probably super defensive because you set the boundaries and it's out of their control. I am glad you are feeling strong enough to establish/stick by those boundaries no matter how tough it may be, because it's healthier and your right as a fucking sentienent being not to be abused. Sorry I always write you a goddamn novel for comments, but I really feel you are a kindred spirit, and I just hope all continues to be well.....Stay strong.